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February 28, 2017

Parenting a White: Taking a Positive Approach To Their Limitations

If you are the parent of a child with a White personality, congratulations! White children are very simple and undemanding. They are typically the easiest babies, and they go through life with an even temper.

White children have great strengths. They are very agreeable to established traditions and boundaries. They are willing to accommodate their siblings and their parents. They play well by themselves, they accept life without drama and they are peacekeepers.

And of course, just like the other colors, children with White personalities have limitations. These limitations might drive you crazy! But since your child may not recognize how they can overcome their limitations yet, it may be up to you to learn to deal with them.

In this article, we will identify some limitations of children with White personalities and provide you with some tips so you can approach these limitations in a more positive way.

Here we go!

1. White children resent being pressured to do things

  • As a parent, you want to see your child thrive. So if your White child is unmotivated and uninvolved — two natural limitations of the White personality — you may find yourself hounding them to do their homework or pressuring them to join a team sport. Well, Whites don’t like being controlled. As a Red or a Blue parent, this is difficult, because you want to control others. But instead of pressuring your White child into doing things, show patience with them and try not to rush them and do not be cruel or insensitive. Instead, try combining firmness with kindness.

2. White children don’t contribute much to conversations

  • Whites often feel things very deeply, but they struggle to express their feelings to others. As a parent, you’re probably wondering what’s going on inside their heads and it may be hard for you that they don’t contribute much to conversations. However, don’t rush communication and don’t force immediate verbal expression. Try looking for nonverbal clues to their feelings. They may not be saying much, but that doesn’t mean they’re not thinking things over in their head or that they’re not happy with you. When they do talk, hear them out and listen quietly and carefully. Whites are great listeners so show them the same courtesy.

3. White children prefer the comforts of home to the demands of the world

  • While there’s nothing wrong with being a homebody necessarily, you also probably want your child to experience what the world has to offer. You’d like to see them go out and make friends and be involved with life. However, to have the best relationship with your White child, don’t expect them to need much social interaction. Just because you were the student body president of your high school doesn’t mean that’s what they want. Of course, it’s still wise to encourage our children to go outside their comfort zone and to try new things, but with a White, you do not want to overwhelm them with too much at once. Since they may not go looking for ways to get involved in the world on their own, try sharing ideas with them that you think they might like.

4. White children don’t complete tasks

  • Whites are unmotivated. A lot of Whites do not have direction and commitment, two critical elements of motivation. Goals are the only hope for an unmotivated White; Without them, Whites remain disengaged and unmotivated. Until they are able to establish direction in their lives, Whites often remain complacent, yet unsettled. Try setting goals with your White child. For example, if they struggle to complete their homework on time, sit down with them each week and make goals such as writing down their homework assignments in a planner, completing their homework before they can watch TV and working to get an “A” in a subject in which they excel.

Now that you’ve finished reading, you’re bound to be a perfect parent! 😉 Remember to be patient with yourself and with your children, and in time, we can all learn to overcome our limitations. Parents of Whites, good luck!


— The Color Code Team